Take yourself lightly because that’s how you want to be taken. Let me explain; if you know the “secret”, you cannot possibly make mistakes! How would you feel if, no matter what decision you make, you would not be able to make mistakes?
How would you feel if, no matter what happens so you, you would be winning?
For several reasons, we have been programmed to see the worst case scenario in most things; if, for example, you find yourself in a position where, due to someone offering you a new job, you have to decide whether to stay where you are or whether to accept the offer; thoughts like “What if I leave and then I am not able to give them what they want and get fired?” “What if I say No and then get bored here?” “What ifs” of this kind can be in our minds in many situations, often, when making a decision, the outcome in our mind looks like a “lose-lose” situation and thus we cannot decide.

The truth, the “secret” is that life has good surprises for you in both options. If, like in the example above, you have to decide whether to take a new challenge or stay in your present job, chances are that you would be winning no matter what you decide. Let’s say that you do take the new job; the following may happen:
- You meet new people
- You learn new things
- You get excited
- You find it difficult and challenge yourself, thus you grow
- You cannot cope and decide to leave and so have to find a new job which will “force” you to work hard at selling yourself and thus you grow
- You get fired and cannot find a job for sometime which means running out of money. This would elicit your ability to cope with such situation, teach you to manage finances meticulously, having to telephone creditors and tell them that they will get paid, just not now. This will put enough pressure on your shoulders so that you can find that job and eventually, as you know now, things will work out amazingly and, due to the challenges you have just overcome, you grow.
- Once you solve the situation you would have learnt many things and gained many skills; persistence, confidence, appreciation and much more. Simon Cowell was down to his last £5.00 just before he “made it”. Stallone had to sell his dog just before someone trusted his project with Rocky. I personally came to the UK with £65 in my pockets and the first week’s rent was £95.
Once you learn the “secret”, once you realise that whatever happens is going to be a blessing, all your fears will simply disappear. Think about it for a moment, what would it be like to be excited about all decisions you make; what would it be like to be able to make your decisions based on what is the most exciting option as opposed to the less scary option? Everything that you do will bring you growth, including making “mistakes” for if you are not making “mistakes”, it must mean that you are not doing anything, you are not growing.
Once your mind is fully engaged in the line of thinking above, you will move from a place of fear and insecurities to a place of power and opportunities. Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can happen?” and ask yourself the same question with each answer that you give yourself you will soon come to realise that the “worst” that can happen is an opportunity to grow.

Life is like flying an aircraft; it is all about correcting the direction heading toward your goal. If you were not making “mistakes” it would most likely mean that you are making “mistakes” but fail to realise it. This could mean that you are “off track” and could stay so and thus, never get to your destination.

Taking chances means that you “push yourself” to grow constantly and this means that from time to time you will find a path that is not the most ideal to get to where you want go and so correct it. During the correction process however, you would grow, get stronger and learn new skills which means that your speed toward your goal would increase and so would your strengths. The journey of growth toward your goals looks like this:

Another important element is how you “fill” your “life’s platform”. Have you ever met someone who says things like “I would be lost if he left me”, “if my career does not work out I would be ruined”, “it’s everything I have” etc? This is possibly one of the most undesirable situations one can put him/herself in. This happens because that person “lives” for his/her partner, career, children etc. Let’s say that this person “lives” for the relationship; his/her life looks like this:

This is often the cause of many uncomfortable reactions and behaviours such as obsession, jealousy, paranoia etc. Also, if the relationship was to end, the person “living” for that relationship would have nothing to live for and his/her life would become misery, depression and sadness; emptiness!

It is important to fill your life with several things, be interested in several areas and this will not only enable you to experience each area with a more productive, educational and pleasant attitude, but also allow you to know that, should one of the areas be in a transition period, your life would still be filled with all the other areas which would keep you “alive”.
This below is my personal Platform of Life.

As you can see, even if one of the boxes was in such “stuck state” to be temporarily removed, my life would still be filled with things to do, people to see, tasks to complete, goals to achieve; I would look after my health, have fun and still “have a life”.
I strongly recommend that you draw your Platform of Life with several boxes and then for each box, create a to-do list and a list of commitments. By commitments I mean that you must commit to all the boxes, including the fun box, the health box, the family box and so on. This will allow you to “train your mind”, meet new people, stay healthy and fit, be productive and ultimately have a happier life. On my Platform of Life above, Contributions stands for work I do for the community, charity work, work to help the planet and others.
Start now by drawing your Platform of Life and committing yourself to complete a to-do list once you get home and start living according to it from today.
To your success!
Luca Senatore Master Hypnotist CPMH, CPNLP, CPTLT, NLPCH
Cambridge 01223 303 904 http://www.eastangliahypnotherapy.com